Giving Kids the Power to Achieve Their Dreams!
Whatever your child’s talents, you can help them feel loved and consequently empowered to do whatever they desire. This involves focussing on your communication and personal bond with your child, the language you use, the love you show, the faith and responsibility you bestow upon them, and just being happy with the child no matter their likes and dislikes, and whoever they are.
The way we think influences how we feel, our sense of worth and our successes. I’m positive lots of us can remember times when we had a notion, like for instance, “I know I will let the team down once again”, and then, true to our thought, we do just that. So being conditioned to have positive thoughts instead of negative can make all the difference to us achieving our goals, and yet while a child is great at something, they can achieve much, much more and even be the best, if they believe they are capable of it.
So how can we promote such a belief in our child?
1. Our language is very powerful. Children respond fantastically to positive praise when they do anything well, but equally as important is your readiness to look past the things they don’t do so well. Always look for, draw upon and build upon, the strengths, rather than the worst in your child.
2. Express your love to your kids, no matter how old they are. As they reach teenage years, this is something we may not do as frequently. You must let them know you love them – it is your close, trusting and stable relationship with them that is the powerful foundation on which they can build, and accomplish, anything in their great life.
3. We’ve all met the over-zealous parent who pushes their child to be great at lots of things, to do their best in absolutely everything, and have high standards. It’s good for kids to acknowledge, however, that they don’t have to be good at absolutely every thing, and that they know their limits. A child who feels they have to be something they are not, will feel dismayed and not a success.
4. From an early age, support your children to be independent, doing things for themselves, starting with the tiniest of tasks like hanging their hat up, right up to running errands and finding a job. Giving kids responsibility gives them control and the knowledge that you beleive them to be trustworthy and responsible. If you’re for ever heading from a position of distrust and little confidence in their abilities, then they will respond accordingly.
5. When a child wants to do something for themself, then let him (if it's safe, of course). Unless you can find a compelling reason not to, always say ‘yes’ to their eagerness and keeness in doing things for themselves. It shows you believe in your child and gives them the confidence to try new things.
2. Express your love to your kids, no matter how old they are. As they reach teenage years, this is something we may not do as frequently. You must let them know you love them – it is your close, trusting and stable relationship with them that is the powerful foundation on which they can build, and accomplish, anything in their great life.
3. We’ve all met the over-zealous parent who pushes their child to be great at lots of things, to do their best in absolutely everything, and have high standards. It’s good for kids to acknowledge, however, that they don’t have to be good at absolutely every thing, and that they know their limits. A child who feels they have to be something they are not, will feel dismayed and not a success.
4. From an early age, support your children to be independent, doing things for themselves, starting with the tiniest of tasks like hanging their hat up, right up to running errands and finding a job. Giving kids responsibility gives them control and the knowledge that you beleive them to be trustworthy and responsible. If you’re for ever heading from a position of distrust and little confidence in their abilities, then they will respond accordingly.
5. When a child wants to do something for themself, then let him (if it's safe, of course). Unless you can find a compelling reason not to, always say ‘yes’ to their eagerness and keeness in doing things for themselves. It shows you believe in your child and gives them the confidence to try new things.
You must have noticed that when you’re happy, other people smile at you? It is because of the way you are feeling inside shows on the outside, even if you are not conscience of it yourself. What you feel on the inside is projected outwards from you. The same as, to be able to love other people and give love, you must first love yourselves. Being happy and having a positive attitude and self worth are more important than anything else because they are the nitty-gritty on which we and our kids can build in order to do and achieve anything in our life, for that reason to be successful in profession, education or anything, we must be capable to build relationships with others.
So instead of worrying about what your child is able to achieve or not achieve, concentrate on your communication and personal bond with your child. Children will always have their strengths and weaknesses, be particularly gifted in certain things, and confusingly clumsy and slow in others. Whatever their talents, you can help your child feel loved and therefore capable in whatever they desire to do. A happy kid is a healthy kid!
